Well, your twins are still young. And if you went to all that expense and trouble to have IVF, then this baby is a huge blessing. Maybe the guy will come around after the birth, maybe he won’t. But if you have been unable to have children for such a large portion of your life, then suddenly find yourself pregnant? It sounds like this baby was supposed to be in your life. If he’s 49 with no children, maybe he’s just scared. That alot of life to live childless, then suddenly find out you are gonna be a Dad. Whatever happens, you’ll make a good choice. But with him being happy at first, I’d have to hope that he’ll be happy with the idea again, given time. Make sure to call him for the birth when its time. Either way, it would be cool for him to be there. He’d kick himself later for missing it.
It is your choice and your choice only. I am male myself and very much pro-choice when it comes to abortion, but it is never anyone else’s decision, only yours.
You can do this on your own. Anyone who flip flops from wedding to abortion over the ‘pregnancy’ news isn’t being very responsible to YOU, your feelings or the baby. If you want it, you keep it and you’ll do great!
He probably will, (change his mind), but it’s not his decision to make in the first place. It’s your body and your choice. It sounds like you had problems concieving before so you should see this as a wonderful gift. CongratulationS!
dont kill the baby. i would go ahead with the pregnancy but when it comes time to have it and you still dont want it put it up for adoption dont kill it. Maybe when the baby arrives he will calm down about it.
You should do what you think is best for you because in the end he is not the one that has to deal with it you do, i had a traumatic abortion never in my life will i do it again but like i said anything that comes of it the guy can sympathize but he doesn’t have to live with it you do
If you want to have that baby, have it! If you don’t give it up for adoption! Abortion is not the answer! There are plenty of people out there who can’t have children who would love to adopt your baby.
if you get an abortion, then you are killing someone. what did they do to die. it was really your fault for getting pregnant, so the baby shouldn’t have to die for your mistake. think about how wonderful this child could be. if your bf really loves you then he will except another child for you to have. it is your child and you should be able to have the baby even if your bf doesn’t want you to. and if you really didn’t want to get close to getting pregnant then you would of used some type of protection, right? if you don’t want to care for the baby then give it up for adoption, many people would be very thankful to have a child that is adopted, then what will your twins think when you give their brother/sister away to another family. it all takes time, but whatever you choose don’t make abortion be your final result
DO NOT have an abortion.u made the choice to creata the baby so eighther adoption or keep it please u will regret it if u have an abortion.ur boyfrend is the father but he cant make u do anything u dont want to please do not have an abortion it is basecally the same thing as murder.the doctors just call it choce but it will leave a liftime scare that u will never forget.
He would have no other way out of it if you chose to keep this baby. Abortion is a sin you will be judged for on the return of our Lord. Just do the right thing by having this baby, then if you can’t afford to take care of the baby, then put it up for adoption. He is crazy out of his mind. he wants you to have a sin on your shoulder that only you can get judged for…….NO WAY!
Remember you will have to live with this memory the rest of your life so what kind of memory do you want? Example; when you were little did you eat dirt and when you think of it do you smile or cry. Memories are always with you even when you’re alone.
This is up to you, honestly, no man or woman have a right to even ask another person to have an abortion.. I hope you have your baby, being in your 40’s, makes this baby really spacial and he/she is meant to be here for a reason.
Once he See’s his baby girl or boy, he will be putty..
I think you should have the kid, maybe he wants to leave you? He just wants to refuse responsibility. I am pro-choice but I think you should have the baby regardless of his opinion. You sound like a nice person who would regret losing her child. He might change his mind if he gets attached to the baby.
if you want this baby dont let him get u down. this is your child. a human being. abortion is murder. DONT LET HIM CONVINCE YOU TO GET A ABORTION! give this child a chance to live.
DO YOU WANT MORNING SICKNESS OR THE SICKNESS OF MOURNING.
No matter what you do that child will always be a part of you. thats a life inside of you. what if you got an abortion with your twins. looking at them now, do you think you could handle not havin them. an abortion is sumthin you’ll neva forget, they collapse the skull and actually pull you dead child out of you. please dont do that. if anything do adoption. but please give your unborn baby a chance to live. Good Luck!
remember this is your child too, dont let your boyfriend control this very important situation.
It may be uncomfortable doing it alone, but you will adjust faster than you expect, and not even think about it anymore. The baby is innocent and just asks for your love.
it seems that you have already made up your mind about what you plan to do and it is highly unlikely that he will change his mind until you actually have the child but im sure that he would not be happy about it if you keep it he probably does not want a child and he could just sign away his rights so that he does not have to pay you anything or provide anything for you or the child
Good luck with that. Either have the abortion or live with the kid. Life is over as you know it. You are way to old to chasing around unwanted bastard children. He will dump you soon. You must be a real loser to have 3 yr old twins with some other loser and now your knocked up by some other loser. Get the abortion and have your tubes blocked.
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
Well, your twins are still young. And if you went to all that expense and trouble to have IVF, then this baby is a huge blessing. Maybe the guy will come around after the birth, maybe he won’t. But if you have been unable to have children for such a large portion of your life, then suddenly find yourself pregnant? It sounds like this baby was supposed to be in your life. If he’s 49 with no children, maybe he’s just scared. That alot of life to live childless, then suddenly find out you are gonna be a Dad. Whatever happens, you’ll make a good choice. But with him being happy at first, I’d have to hope that he’ll be happy with the idea again, given time. Make sure to call him for the birth when its time. Either way, it would be cool for him to be there. He’d kick himself later for missing it.
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
It is your choice and your choice only. I am male myself and very much pro-choice when it comes to abortion, but it is never anyone else’s decision, only yours.
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
You can do this on your own. Anyone who flip flops from wedding to abortion over the ‘pregnancy’ news isn’t being very responsible to YOU, your feelings or the baby. If you want it, you keep it and you’ll do great!
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
He probably will, (change his mind), but it’s not his decision to make in the first place. It’s your body and your choice. It sounds like you had problems concieving before so you should see this as a wonderful gift. CongratulationS!
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
dont kill the baby. i would go ahead with the pregnancy but when it comes time to have it and you still dont want it put it up for adoption dont kill it. Maybe when the baby arrives he will calm down about it.
Take Care
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
Dump him and do what you want. What he wants doesn’t matter since he seems like an asshole. It is your choice.
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
You should do what you think is best for you because in the end he is not the one that has to deal with it you do, i had a traumatic abortion never in my life will i do it again but like i said anything that comes of it the guy can sympathize but he doesn’t have to live with it you do
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
If you want to have that baby, have it! If you don’t give it up for adoption! Abortion is not the answer! There are plenty of people out there who can’t have children who would love to adopt your baby.
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
if you get an abortion, then you are killing someone. what did they do to die. it was really your fault for getting pregnant, so the baby shouldn’t have to die for your mistake. think about how wonderful this child could be. if your bf really loves you then he will except another child for you to have. it is your child and you should be able to have the baby even if your bf doesn’t want you to. and if you really didn’t want to get close to getting pregnant then you would of used some type of protection, right? if you don’t want to care for the baby then give it up for adoption, many people would be very thankful to have a child that is adopted, then what will your twins think when you give their brother/sister away to another family. it all takes time, but whatever you choose don’t make abortion be your final result
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
DO NOT have an abortion.u made the choice to creata the baby so eighther adoption or keep it please u will regret it if u have an abortion.ur boyfrend is the father but he cant make u do anything u dont want to please do not have an abortion it is basecally the same thing as murder.the doctors just call it choce but it will leave a liftime scare that u will never forget.
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
He would have no other way out of it if you chose to keep this baby. Abortion is a sin you will be judged for on the return of our Lord. Just do the right thing by having this baby, then if you can’t afford to take care of the baby, then put it up for adoption. He is crazy out of his mind. he wants you to have a sin on your shoulder that only you can get judged for…….NO WAY!
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
Remember you will have to live with this memory the rest of your life so what kind of memory do you want? Example; when you were little did you eat dirt and when you think of it do you smile or cry. Memories are always with you even when you’re alone.
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
This is up to you, honestly, no man or woman have a right to even ask another person to have an abortion.. I hope you have your baby, being in your 40’s, makes this baby really spacial and he/she is meant to be here for a reason.
Once he See’s his baby girl or boy, he will be putty..
Good Luck
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
I think you should have the kid, maybe he wants to leave you? He just wants to refuse responsibility. I am pro-choice but I think you should have the baby regardless of his opinion. You sound like a nice person who would regret losing her child. He might change his mind if he gets attached to the baby.
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
if you want this baby dont let him get u down. this is your child. a human being. abortion is murder. DONT LET HIM CONVINCE YOU TO GET A ABORTION! give this child a chance to live.
DO YOU WANT MORNING SICKNESS OR THE SICKNESS OF MOURNING.
No matter what you do that child will always be a part of you. thats a life inside of you. what if you got an abortion with your twins. looking at them now, do you think you could handle not havin them. an abortion is sumthin you’ll neva forget, they collapse the skull and actually pull you dead child out of you. please dont do that. if anything do adoption. but please give your unborn baby a chance to live. Good Luck!
remember this is your child too, dont let your boyfriend control this very important situation.
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
It may be uncomfortable doing it alone, but you will adjust faster than you expect, and not even think about it anymore. The baby is innocent and just asks for your love.
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
it seems that you have already made up your mind about what you plan to do and it is highly unlikely that he will change his mind until you actually have the child but im sure that he would not be happy about it if you keep it he probably does not want a child and he could just sign away his rights so that he does not have to pay you anything or provide anything for you or the child
March 8th, 2010 at 2:31 am
Good luck with that. Either have the abortion or live with the kid. Life is over as you know it. You are way to old to chasing around unwanted bastard children. He will dump you soon. You must be a real loser to have 3 yr old twins with some other loser and now your knocked up by some other loser. Get the abortion and have your tubes blocked.