My wife has been pregnant 5 times, and terribly sick for the first 4 months of each of those pregnancies and not once did I even think about messing around on her. Being in a loving relationship means you have understanding for these kinds of things. Buy him some porn if he is that much of a nymph that he cant get past 3-4 months because all you can do is puke.
Honestly, if you think your husband is capable of cheating during this time then why are you having kids with this guy, or staying with him at all for that matter? Doesn’t sound like any trust exists in this relationship to me and without that, good luck raising children.
A lack of trust in a relationship is never good. If you don’t believe your husband when he says he loves you it could cause some issues. It’s totally normal to feel like you do though. I think every woman does at some point or another, especially during pregnancy due to hormones and body changes. With all the celebrity scandals that are coming out these days and shows like "Stag" and "Cheaters", it makes women uncomfortable about their men. The pressure is on us women to look like runway models and celebs. We think, "God, if Celebs like Elizabeth Hurley and Jennifer Aniston are getting left by their guys for other girls, how do I keep my guy around?" Most guys are not like that. Odds are he loves you for you and always will. Take a leap and trust him. it;s hard, but it’s worth it. You two share a bond that nobody will ever be a part of. You have a child with him.
Did you have concerns/reservations about your husband’s faithfulness before you got pregnant? If so, that’s something that I think the two of you should address and the sooner the better. If you’ve had concerns in the past, trust your instincts and talk to him about it and possibly even see a couples’ counselor.
But if these concerns are just popping up now, it’s most likely a combination of hormones and exhaustion from being sick for three months straight. I can tell you that I have had the worst morning sickness throughout my entire pregnancy and it was especially bad during that first trimester and it really did a number on me emotionally. Since morning sickness is an accepted symptom of pregnancy, there is not much discussion or information out there about the toll it can take on those who suffer from it (especially when it’s more severe and lasts all day)
Being as sick as I was, I withdrew from everyone but my husband. I even went through a period where I was upset with my friends and family for not being supportive, but in retrospect I was the one who stopped calling them and essentially didn’t leave the house for months and they couldn’t be expected to read my mind and know what I needed at that time.
I can tell you that my husband has stuck by me through the entire ordeal and has been wonderful about it. Any good husband may miss the lack of intimacy that comes when a wife is dealing with extreme symptoms like you are describing, but will understand that the situation is not your fault and will love you enough to honor your wedding vows and stick by you ‘in sickness and in health.’
Some men may not know how to show their love or care for their ailing pregnant wife, and that may be the cause of your insecurity as well. Now that you are feeling better, try to take stock of the situation and get to the root of your concerns. What is motivating you to question your husband’s love? Have his actions or behaviors changed?
Either way, once you have taken stock of the situation and the reason behind your feelings, talk to him. Even if you examine things and realize that you’re most likely just feeling insecure as a result of your hormones, the best way to promote a lasting bond is to share those moments of insecurity, to share your inner thoughts (without being accusing) and talk through them together.
December 25th, 2009 at 11:02 am
My wife has been pregnant 5 times, and terribly sick for the first 4 months of each of those pregnancies and not once did I even think about messing around on her. Being in a loving relationship means you have understanding for these kinds of things. Buy him some porn if he is that much of a nymph that he cant get past 3-4 months because all you can do is puke.
Honestly, if you think your husband is capable of cheating during this time then why are you having kids with this guy, or staying with him at all for that matter? Doesn’t sound like any trust exists in this relationship to me and without that, good luck raising children.
December 25th, 2009 at 11:02 am
my grandma had 8 kids and her husband never cheated on her. it depends i guess. todays hectic lifestyle i say not more than 3
December 25th, 2009 at 11:02 am
A lack of trust in a relationship is never good. If you don’t believe your husband when he says he loves you it could cause some issues. It’s totally normal to feel like you do though. I think every woman does at some point or another, especially during pregnancy due to hormones and body changes. With all the celebrity scandals that are coming out these days and shows like "Stag" and "Cheaters", it makes women uncomfortable about their men. The pressure is on us women to look like runway models and celebs. We think, "God, if Celebs like Elizabeth Hurley and Jennifer Aniston are getting left by their guys for other girls, how do I keep my guy around?" Most guys are not like that. Odds are he loves you for you and always will. Take a leap and trust him. it;s hard, but it’s worth it. You two share a bond that nobody will ever be a part of. You have a child with him.
December 25th, 2009 at 11:02 am
I completely agree with the first answerer.. But if you take it from Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar.. the answer is at least 19!
December 25th, 2009 at 11:02 am
I think it’s just your hormones that’s making you think/feel this way. I bet he still loves you with all his heart.
December 25th, 2009 at 11:02 am
Did you have concerns/reservations about your husband’s faithfulness before you got pregnant? If so, that’s something that I think the two of you should address and the sooner the better. If you’ve had concerns in the past, trust your instincts and talk to him about it and possibly even see a couples’ counselor.
But if these concerns are just popping up now, it’s most likely a combination of hormones and exhaustion from being sick for three months straight. I can tell you that I have had the worst morning sickness throughout my entire pregnancy and it was especially bad during that first trimester and it really did a number on me emotionally. Since morning sickness is an accepted symptom of pregnancy, there is not much discussion or information out there about the toll it can take on those who suffer from it (especially when it’s more severe and lasts all day)
Being as sick as I was, I withdrew from everyone but my husband. I even went through a period where I was upset with my friends and family for not being supportive, but in retrospect I was the one who stopped calling them and essentially didn’t leave the house for months and they couldn’t be expected to read my mind and know what I needed at that time.
I can tell you that my husband has stuck by me through the entire ordeal and has been wonderful about it. Any good husband may miss the lack of intimacy that comes when a wife is dealing with extreme symptoms like you are describing, but will understand that the situation is not your fault and will love you enough to honor your wedding vows and stick by you ‘in sickness and in health.’
Some men may not know how to show their love or care for their ailing pregnant wife, and that may be the cause of your insecurity as well. Now that you are feeling better, try to take stock of the situation and get to the root of your concerns. What is motivating you to question your husband’s love? Have his actions or behaviors changed?
Either way, once you have taken stock of the situation and the reason behind your feelings, talk to him. Even if you examine things and realize that you’re most likely just feeling insecure as a result of your hormones, the best way to promote a lasting bond is to share those moments of insecurity, to share your inner thoughts (without being accusing) and talk through them together.